Finding a mentor is one of the most important finds you can make.
Julie, my church youth leader in high school, was such a mentor. She was fun. She could laugh at herself, even at her few extra pounds and love lost on what seemed a never-ending string of almost boyfriends.
She was wise beyond her years, coaching me to focus on my studies (unless there was something more interesting going on), and to wear the skirts with the longer hemlines when I came to church.
What to Do When Your Mentoring Meetings Keep Changing
Did you ever have a mentor who didn’t quite make it to your scheduled mentoring meetings?
Where you were going weeks without getting together because of their shifting schedule, or because they were going a hundred directions at once?
Or maybe they’d cut short the meetings you did have because of countless interruptions.
What do you think is the #1 reason people give for not being in a mentoring relationship?
If you said, “I’m too busy.” you are spot on. With work deadlines, home commitments, kids’ extracurricular events, community sign-ups, how can you find the time?
Here’s one thing to Stop Doing and one thing to Start Doing to make mentoring easy for you, save you time, and make it feel like a desirable investment, not a “have to do.”
To start the New Year off well, here are FIVE TIPS that will get you ready to “get mentored”…and successfully!
Before you approach a potential mentor, learn about them. What makes them strong as a mentor and leader? Who have they mentored well previously? Speak to one of their mentees to learn about their experience. A mentor will be impressed that you have done your due diligence on where they shine.
“Few things are harder to put up with than the annoyance of a good example.”
– Mark Twain
My grandma used to encourage me to hang around a certain couple of kids in middle school. She felt I needed a good example and boy, was she ever right. Those were the teeter-totter years when a kid could spin off in a wrong direction. Here was a typical late-night conversation around our kitchen table….
Grandma: “Honey, why don’t you spend time with that tall boy, Dan, and that dark-haired girl, Carolyn? They are such nice young kids. That Dan, he’s an excellent example of gentlemanly conduct. And Carolyn, she’s a shining example of a conscientious student. It would be good for you to spend time with friends like that.”
Me: “Because I like Mark and Deb. They are examples . . . in their own way.”